Save Boatloads of Time By Knowing When to Jump Ship
I Discovered This While Writing in Flow States
Writing is like life, it’s good to know when we’re on the right track. Otherwise, we’re wasting our time. Here are some “tells” to detect if you’re on the right track.
You work hard and think it’ll be big. It probably won’t be.
You have fun and don’t care if it’s big. It might be.
You laugh uncontrollably (or sob, etc.). You’re onto something.
You laugh so hard you forget what the hell you were laughing at. Oops, fail.
The key is to put the emotion into the writing/project before that energy transforms to pure feeling. Yes, you’re sacrificing some of your own pleasure for the reader (or the receiver of whatever project).
Once I heard some advice for deciding if you want to buy something. Essentially, if it’s a “hell yeah” then go for it. Otherwise, move on.
The right answers in her life are usually pretty obvious. We don’t need to ask others if they look good enough, and we don’t need our ego to talk us into it. Romeo didn’t rely on his family’s approval to date Juliet. He knew who he wanted.
Sure, we can still be uncertain or nervous when we’re making choices, but you’ll know when it’s right. If uncertain, time is your best friend.
Time allows muddy waters to calm and become clear.
The real time-saver though is figuring out when you’re wrong.
Crazy enough, the wrong voice (ego) will try to disguise itself as the right voice (intuition) quite often. Here’s what I’ve learned…
I’m using writing as the example, but this can be applied to many arenas.
Probably the most subtle “tell” of going off-course is when I imagine someone complementing a phrase I wrote. I might think, “Oh, so-and-so will like this...”
That seems like a good sign, but it’s not. It’s actually the ego’s “excuse voice” disguising itself as intuition (the voice of your true self).
Since your true self isn’t saying “hell yeah” to what you just put time into, the ego comes in to try to make everything seem cool. Even though it’s not.
I can’t tell you how many times writing I’ve gone back and deleted stuff later where this “fake compliment” voice occurred.
Don’t do things for others unless they’re asking you, otherwise just do it for your own approval and then you’ll actually help others the most because you’ll be delivering authenticity.
Another example: if I have to go ask someone if a headline or picture is good, it probably isn’t. When the headline is good, I don’t question.
It all starts with paying attention to thoughts, and beginning to discern that quiet voice of intuition which can guide when the loud ego calms.
We do need the ego, but as a tool and not the master. It can help plot out the details of a path after intuition decides the direction.
When You May Want to Jump Ship:
- You need outside validation for something = it’s probably not that great.
- You hear pushy inner voices trying to convince you = they might be insecure voices, we all have these but some just notice them more
- Your body feels uncomfortable doing it = wait awhile, add space
- Someone else told you do to it = but do you want to?
When You Could Be Onto Something Big:
- You’re helping someone who asked for help = bingo (could it help others?)
- Your body feels good doing it = keep going
- You don’t care about the outcome, you just need to do it = yes!
- You’re emotions boil over = write/produce fiercely, then edit when calm
- Take a breather… (literally watch your breath, see how that makes you feel)
- It’s easy to write = it’ll be easy to read
- You’re having fun and keeping it simple = you’re in the flow…
By the way, these are for projects, not relationships. Those are more complex. I hope these help on your journey and I’ll share more as I get them. Thanks for reading. 🙏