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Things Men Secretly Do … The Sequel

Things Men Secretly Do … The Sequel

Let’s Take Another Honest Peek Under the Hood

Even after all the wars, pandemics and social revolutions, men and women are still chasing each other, playing the same games. But to play well, it helps to know the unwritten rules, or secrets… So here we go…

Men grub out more around women.

A woman smiles and eat with two women.
Photo by Taha Samet Arslan from Pexels.

Maybe it’s from millions of years of nursing, but a Cornell study found men eat 93 percent more pizza and 86 percent more salad when seated with a woman.

If not the nursing, maybe it’s simply because many women enjoy shoveling food into men’s mouths and onto our plates. Those of us who don’t know how to say no just keep ballooning until our pants no longer fit.

Men have a hard time saying no to a woman, which brings us to our next secret…

Men will do anything for their woman.

A woman leads a man by the hand into a meadow.
Nathan McBride

There’s a slang term for male bonding, “Bros before Hoes.” However, this falls flat when a guy finds a women he truly likes.

If she wants him to wear a dorky sweater, he’ll wear it.

If she wants him to go to some boring social function, he’ll do it with a smile.

If she wants him to go rob a bank to win her love, he’ll ask for the gun.

Men want nothing more than his woman’s admiration. It overrides so many other wants and desires. But be careful guys, it was Bonnie who turned Clyde from a petty thief into a big-time bank robber.

For men, cars are almost as special as a woman.

Luxury car in a meadow.
Image by Gerhard G. from Pixabay

Cars take us places, look and feel cool, let us escape to scenes with the soundtrack of our choosing — what’s not to like!

But sometimes men’s love of vehicles goes too far, like when a guy cares more about the condition of his ride than his ride-or-die.

Remember dudes, half the reason you got a ride is to take her out (another secret revealed), so keep priorities straight.

Men dream of disasters more often.

A tornado approaches a farm.
Image by Prettysleepy from Pixabay.

A study found men are more likely than women to dream about catastrophes like hurricanes, floods and wars. Women, on the other hand, are twice as likely to dream about interpersonal conflicts.

So, a guy might dream about an army invading his hometown and going to war. Meanwhile, the woman may dream about falling for an invading soldier, and having a war in her mind between two loves.

Men are born with battle-ready vision.

A knight on a horse in the sunrise.

Scientists showed men react to moving stimuli faster than women, and spot long-distance objects faster.

The test was like a video game, using flickering lights on a screen to time people’s reactions.

Maybe it’s from the hunter-gatherer days, when men who spotted fast-moving arrows or claws lived to produce more boys with the same vision.

The study also found women can tell the difference between subtle color gradations better than men. Does that mean women already style-conscious? Or was it more to be able to tell when food was okay to eat, or what was poisonous? Your guess is as good as mine.

Compliments are like gold for men.

Two men and two women toasting with cocktails.
Photo by Espolòn Tequila on Unsplash.

In Part One of this series, we mentioned how women like to be complimented and men like to be asked questions.

While that’s true, if you really want to blow a man’s mind: compliment him too! Dudes rarely gets affirmation about their appearance, and many are insecure about it.

Think of how a guy compliments a woman… Tell him he has great eyes, or a smile, or an amazing vibe. Guys often appreciate and remember a genuine compliment for a lifetime!

And of course, many of us do things outside expectations.

That’s what makes humans so awesome. In the end, men and women have more similarities than differences, but pretending there are no differences is like wearing blinders in the game of life. Use these secrets to build stronger relationships, to understand yourself and others better.

Take it all with a grain of salt (but stay salty).